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There's a reason your marriage isn't changing. It's not your spouse. It's not the situation. It's you.
Let me explain.
In our 12-Week Boot Camp, we track compliance. And when I say compliance, I mean the bare minimum—completing at least half the lessons on time and not doing things we specifically told you not to do.
Our compliance rate over the last 12 months? 52%.
That means half the people who pay us, who have coaches checking in on them, who have everything on the line... still don't do the work.
But here's the other number: for the people who actually show up? Our success rate over the past 12 months is 92%. Historically, over 90% is the norm.
The gap between knowing what to do and doing what you know is where marriages go to die.
Think about fitness for a second. You could go online right now and find everything you need to lose 30 pounds. You could have ChatGPT build you a custom workout and meal plan in ten minutes. The information is free and everywhere.
So why is most of the country overweight?
Because doing it is hard. Following through when you're tired, when it's inconvenient, when you don't feel like it—that's the real challenge.
Your marriage is no different.
It's hard to show up every day when your spouse is cold and distant. It's hard to stay consistent when they're still talking about divorce. It's hard to keep showing up when you're not even sure they notice. It's hard to stay calm when every conversation feels like a trap. It's hard to do the right thing when they're still texting the other person.
I get it. It's hard.
But if our compliance rate is 52% with paid coaching, accountability, and one-on-one support... what do you think it is for people trying to figure this out alone from YouTube videos and Reddit threads?
So if your marriage is struggling and nothing seems to be changing, I want you to look in the mirror and ask yourself one question:
Are you the kind of person who's going to do what it takes?
Because if not, no system is going to save you.
