Everyone thinks they're committed to their marriage.
And when I challenge someone on their commitment, I usually get this answer:
"I really WANT this marriage to work, or I wouldn't be here."
But wanting something doesn't make you committed.
What makes someone committed is the willingness to do hard things and the sacrifices they're willing to make.
Most people want 6% body fat. But they aren't willing to go to the gym every day and stick to the diet.
Most people want to be a millionaire. But they aren't willing to quit their stable job, risk their savings, and work every waking hour.
Most people want a 4.0 GPA. But they aren't willing to sacrifice their hobbies and time with friends in order to study.
Most people want a good marriage. But they aren't willing to:
- Put in the hours to learn new skills
- Take hard feedback
- Make themselves vulnerable
- Feel rejected and keep going
- Be the one who moves first
- Fight in spite of uncertainty
Wanting something doesn't make it happen.
Commitment does.
So take a hard look in the mirror and ask yourself:
Do you WANT your marriage to work?
Or are you COMMITTED to making it work?
Big difference.
